Your Life Didn’t Change, You Did.


You think that your life miraculously got better, but the truth is, life runs on monotonous cycles offering the good with the bad to everyone.

Our environment affects how much good we’re able to see or pull out of life.

Your life didn’t suddenly get better, you did.

Your perspective, outlook, expectations, and boundaries changed.

Before you saw limited options, now you create opportunity.

You’ve taken time to discover yourself, in part voluntarily, and in part through forced life experiences.

The job you hated 10 years ago is a piece of cake compared to what you’re doing now.

The relationship you thought you couldn’t stand 5 years ago is the same relationship you’re searching for now.

The friendships you’ve had since high school are the same friends who are strangers now.

The family members you were striving to please are the same ones you’re distancing yourself from now.

Opportunities to thrive are presented time and time again but you’ll never see them until you’re ready.

You know you’re ready when your ego dies a little bit.

It’s when you simultaneously realize your vulnerability and your strength. It’s when you’ve learned through your mistakes and experiences. It’s when you take responsibility and stop blaming other people.

It’s the feeling of having drunk too much and now reality hits. You’re sober.

It’s letting go of unrealistic expectations, not because you’ve given up but because it wasn’t ever the life you wanted.

It’s when you realize that you’ve based so much of your happiness on other people and societal norms instead of what you really want.

It’s when you realize you can do whatever you want.

You’ve had to change. You were faced with trauma that shattered your being and emotions to the core.

You’ve suffered enough and decided it’s not serving you anymore. You’ve experienced joy, a taste of something more, so you commit to choosing better.

As you change so do your needs. As you become more self-sufficient, you require less. You pinpoint the make it or break it factors, what really matters, and leave the rest.

You realize that life isn’t some fairy-tale, it’s what you make of it. Life didn’t improve, it’s always been there. You adapted.

So now what?

Do you live in mediocrity? Hell no.

You keep on exploring and figuring out what an actualized life looks like for you.

It’s easy to lose ourselves along the way. It’s easy to forget how far we’ve come, to get discouraged and feel alone.

What you need are reminders, it’s about tracking the little wins instead of looking at what everyone else is doing. This is about you. Your path is different.

Look at everything that’s going right for you and keep evolving.

You see, your life didn’t change, you did.

It was always you.


Story originally published on Medium publication- The Assemblage

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